Do you ever go to bed at night with the feeling that you've
just been on an all day roller coaster, with little more than
a well worn blanket between your posterior and the cold, hard
metal of reality? Bouncing up and down for five minutes is
exciting. Doing it for sixteen hours makes you want to spend
the next decade soaking your bruised bones in the first hot
tub that you can find.
Of course, unless you've just spent all day at the amusement
park with an unruly herd of small children, the roller coaster
ride we're talking about here is probably more mental and
emotional than physical. Turmoil in personal relationships,
mental exhaustion at work, and the stress and strain of time
management that never happened can leave you feeling like
a passenger on a runaway train. The only problem is that you're
the one who was supposed to be driving. Try explaining that
to your insurance agent when it's time to pick up the pieces
and file a claim.
When you consider just how complicated the human machine is,
let alone the ever changing state of life with which it interacts,
it's downright amazing how many people live their lives with
the carefree abandon of someone who's just pushed the Auto
Pilot button. Although I don't recall any buttons and switches
being advertised as standard equipment for the human experience,
I'd be willing to bet that if there is in fact a big, red
button, it's labeled Eject. That would at least explain some
of the driving I see in morning traffic.
Nonetheless, people often live their lives from day to day,
responding reflexively to whatever they encounter and giving
little thought to the consequences of their actions or the
catalysts that control them. Having spent a fair amount of
time on the road back in the carefree days of a rock &
roll musician, I can say with confidence that I know exactly
what happens when your attention drifts and you let go of
the wheel. Bad things.
When you live with little or no self discipline, you're not
really in control of your life. You're a passenger. There
is a distinct difference between developing the flexibility
to go with the flow and lack of control. Plants that can bend
survive high winds. Those with shallow roots do not. Allowing
yourself to be blown about by the tides of fortune will eventually
turn your life into a scattered wreck. Worse still, all the
other plants will laugh at you.
There's more than one way to lose your grip. Living without
conscious intent is among the obvious, but self indulgence
in your problems is one that's easy for even strong people
to fall into. Everyone goes through rough spots from time
to time, and it's a struggle to keep your balance when this
happens. However, if you allow yourself to give in to unpleasant
emotional states and embrace them, you are once again not
at the wheel. Your emotions are, and as any good insurance
agent will tell you, they're notoriously bad drivers. Don't
ask about the rates.
Fortunately, the solution to these problems is deceptively
simple. Although you can't control every single aspect of
life, you can certainly control your attitude and actions.
It's a simple, three step process.
First, you must know exactly who you want to be, and what
life you want to live. Next, make a serious commitment to
yourself that this is the person you are going to be. Finally,
spend a few minutes each morning and dedicate yourself to
living up to this ideal in your daily activities.
These three steps will naturally generate a lot of additional
tasks, but they will get your hands back on the wheel every
time. Life's more fun when you control the journey. The best
way to ensure that is to do the driving yourself.
Christopher Duncan is the best selling author
of Unite the Tribes and The Career Programmer. In addition
to his seminars, he's a popular speaker and frequent guest
on radio shows across the country. He's currently working
to improve companies and careers nationwide through his work
with the Campaign for American Excellence. To contact Christopher,
visit http://www.PracticalStrategyConsulting.com